When did it become normal to degrade me, put me down and then make me a criminal?
When the Canadian Government introduced Bill C36, that's when. Well, long before then, but now very much in the forefront of everyone's minds.
Prostitution, or sex work, had never been a criminal offense in Canada, The 'act' was legal. It was other things that lead up to the actual 'act of penetration' that was illegal, ie talking about price could lead to an arrest.
Can you imagine if a baker made all these wonderful cupcakes and could advertise them, but as soon as a customer asked 'how much', they would be arrested?
Fast forward to December 2013 when the Supreme Court of Canada kills off those laws that infringe on sex workers and their clients human rights. The Government had a year to come up with laws that were viable to the safety of sex workers and they did. Not.
With Bill C36, the government 'allows' sex workers to do the 'act', but they cannot advertise, nor discuss/vet their prospective clients (for their own safety) in any area where children might be present. They now will go after chauffeurs, bodyguards, etc and arrest them too in the guise of exploiting sex workers and profiting off them.
Now, I'm no genius, just have some university education, however..
- not being able to advertise my services
- not being able to discuss my services anywhere (cause there's always that slim chance a child will be present somewhere on the internet at the same time I am that could see my site, or hack my email for that matter)
- can't call a cab to get to my destination, or stop for gas, or hire someone to drive me to my client
-can't rent a hotel, motel, dungeon, the client's place or mine without risk of breaking the law
- my client being arrested for buying my services
I don't know of ANY business that can succeed with all these and there would be a complete breakdown in the society we have set up to...make money.
Sex worker organizations are upset and disheartened. I'm pissed off. Mackay says he's protecting these women by offering $20 million to help all the women to exit the sex trade. To protect them from pimps and abuse. To give them a better life in finding jobs. He ca't even define what sex is, so that's left me as a Pro-Domme completely confused, especially since I don't engage in penetrative sex like some sex workers do. I'm angry, frustrated, and not accepting this Bill.
Please tell me Mr Mackay, what job is out there that I can earn $300/hour or more? To work the hours that I chose to work? To turn down clients that I don't want to see for whatever reason? To be able to afford and hire a bodyguard or driver in case someone is a bit shady and I just want the client to be aware that he can't take advantage of me? To do what I've spent years learning, educating myself and others about, laughing and having some pretty damn fun times, AND getting paid for it?
$20 million is NOT going to provide that type of job for me. I WILL tell you that.
I will also tell you that I, and many others in the industry, will not stop doing what we actually enjoy. The money is great, the hours are great, and many of our clients are great too.
What Bedford wanted was for equal rights of sex workers as many other workers in Canada enjoy. A safe working environment, health benefits.
What we do not want is you handing us a pink slip and saying go work for Walmart. Minimum wage? Seriously? Can you not degrade us even further than you already did with your opening speech? I'm sure you will find ways.
What is is about the act of paying money for ANY sexual service that is so abhorrent to you? How you evade answering the simplest of questions when asked...what are we going to do now that you got rid of our clients and we no longer have a job?
Do you not think that because the demand for sex will simply go away? In your idealistic world perhaps this may be true, but not in mine. Or in others that think realistically. We are sexual beings. If you are so narrow minded to think that sex happens within the confines of marriage you are sadly mistaken. And putting your moralistic ideals onto others infringes on not only my rights, but on millions of others rights to have a good, healthy sexual life, no matter HOW we choose to do it.
So, let's get real here. You've pretty much shut down prostitution across Canada, making it illegal to be a sex worker and to be a john. What you have now created is:
- an environment where people will have to work a bit more in advertising on the low, cause newspapers and websites alike will be losing our business in placing ads with them. Lost sales to any business is going to impact not only a company's bottom line, but the economy when they start laying off people. Like Canada's unemployment really wants that hit?
- an environment where sex workers are at more risk of harm because we can't take the time to vet our potential clients anywhere, thus increasing the risk of assault, rape and murder. Sex workers are referring to Bill C36 as the Pickton model. You remember Pickton don't you? Or would you rather bury him and his victims in the backyard like the rest of us?
- While the johns, or male voters, who use our services may be fearful of coming out in support of sex workers and their rights to work because they will get arrested for using our services, they are still voters. They can show their support by not voting for your pathetic ass in the next election. And I'm calling you pathetic since you started the name calling by calling us down as victims.
- You said we are victims, and you want to protect us. Then get off your white horse, remove the damn armour and come into the 20th century (and actually speaking with us to know who we are would be nice too). We are not victims when we have a legitimate place to work. We are not victims when we have practices in place that keep us safe. We are not victims when we have proper health care benefits that we can pay for to keep us doing our jobs. And we are not victims when we do our jobs willingly. So get off your high horse, I doubt you have ever ridden one anyways. And shiny armour is a bitch to clean btw.
So, being a realist, and dealing with people on a sexual level for many years in not so conventional means of the constraints of marriage (noticed I said constrained) you think that by making prostitution illegal, that you are going to completely rid Canada of sex work. Gosh, you have such high expectations of complacency with your constituents don't you.
Your ignorance of this will get us killed. It will increase violence among women, both inside and outside of marriage. You'll have sexually frustrated people getting upset over the smallest of things and crimes/violence will certainly increase.
I could probably copy at least a dozen news reports here showing examples of sexual frustration and the aftermath, but I'm too lazy and MacKay wouldn't read them anyways.
A good sexual life does not create disharmony in oneself. And you are now going to take that away from all of us? The only thing I can think of for the reasons you totally blew away Bedford is simple. The ingrained religious practice of monogamous marriage that suddenly turns anyone 'honest'.
I read a lot about sex workers rights, but let's ask why exactly the selling/purchasing of sex is now going to be illegal.
In my warped, twisted mind, marriage does that, but over a longer period of time, with different ways of discussing the 'fees'. A guy buys a girl dinner, for sex later. A guy buys a girl a ring, to ensure she keeps having sex with him. A guy buys a girl a wedding ceremony to celebrate the fact that he doesn't have to do much to find sex, he'll have it within the confines of the house he paid for for the girl to continue to have sex with him. That's marriage. Oh, and not to mention that he breeds her to carry on and keep her home so he can have sex with her. That's the way to go isn't it. To be an honest man and make an honest woman out of the girl.
But what happens if a guy can't find a girl to marry? His job is so demanding he never settles down long enough to hunt for one. What happens to those that have disabilities and girls just don't find him attractive enough to even get to the first dinner? What happens to the guy that his wife no longer is interested in sex because she's so tired from herding the kids to school, soccer, ballet, going to PTA meetings, yoga class, cleaning the house and flopping into bed every night saying 'not tonight dear'. Menopause is aptly named, because it typically puts the pause if not power off button on some women's sex drives. So, the man has to be put on hold too?
I'm not blaming women here, honestly. But, these are only some of the many reasons I've come across as to why men see sex workers. But because of real life marriage situations, sex will often go on the back burner for many women. Unfortunately, they don't get consent for that off button from their husbands. Which, according to me...is unfair.
These men aren't seedy criminals. They aren't rapists either. But they can only take so much before out of loneliness or desperation, they see a sex worker, or even better when they can find someone who provides the sexual release for free (technically free but remember the buying of the dinner?) You read constantly about having a healthy sex life makes for a happy marriage. But, given religious undertones, it must be between the two that stood in front of the alter. We got all twisted around in that religious trap. When a couple gets bogged down in a busy life, the sex goes downhill, so one partner seeks out sex to get some sanity back-the relationship goes to hell because it is done in secret and divorce court here we come. Mistresses have been around for centuries, but do you think they did it for free?
For someone like me, people are kinky. They have different needs than the normal vanilla ones. Their submission or wanting a type of impact. It eases their minds. It empowers them. It gives them a sense of relief to impart control to someone else, if only for a few hours. And then it helps them to continue leading an often hectic life. They do not penetrate me in any way, but it can be a sexual release of their mind or their body, even a stress release. So I am a sex worker, although I'm sure that Mr Mackay's puritanical viewpoint would call me much worse than a victim.
I do hope that Mr Mackay has a healthy, happy sexual relationship with his wife. Because if not, and he seeks out someone outside of his marriage for relief, he's going to be breaking the very laws he put into place. Because when you leave laws open to interpretation...buying a girl a drink in the hopes that he can have a 'happy ending' is going to land his own ass in jail. At least that's MY interpretation of his Bill C36.
You want to call me a victim one more time and hand me a pink slip? I'll gladly beat your ass until you cry Red Mr. MacKay. And I'll even do it for free. Maybe even ignore your Red.... I'm not going to stand by while you shove this Bill down our throats and harm so many more people. You, in essence, have become the worst pimp out there.
I chose to do what I do. I do my own adverting here I want. I choose whether to session with a client or not. I do not let anyone take advantage of me, nor do I allow anyone to make me do what I do not want to do. I enjoy my work. Enjoy the people I interact with. And I enjoy the money.
Do I look like a fucking victim that needs help? I think not.